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Originally Posted by Bill3
I'm not seeing the reason for the emphasis on him opening up. I think that what is needed is for you to open up: to explain how you are feeling about the situation and ask for a response.
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I have, and I get shut down.
Me: I'd like to talk to you about something.
Him
no response)
Me: I've noticed the you've been keeping to yourself a lot these last few weeks, and I'm wondering if everything is okay.
Him: Yep
Me: If there's something you'd like to discuss with me, I'm open to it.
Him: No
Me: Ok,then I'd like to say a few things.
And then I told him how I was feeling, what I needed from him.
Him: Okay, I'll try to be more talkative. Is that it?
Me: I'd like to hear your thoughts on what I said.
Him: It's fine.
Even if he just said that he's stressed, or tired, or that he needs a lot of alone time, or something, and that it wasn't me or the living arrangements, I could live with that, but I get nothing. Do I just accept that we're two people living in the same house? He's changed so drastically since the summer. I invited him to live with me for friendship and companionship as well as for the money. Now it's just awkward.