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Originally Posted by guilloche
Good luck Scarlett!!!! I really hope it works out with this new T, my fingers and toes are crossed for you. I hope she's fantastic, and that she lots of experience with your issues, and has helped so many people that she's super-confident she can help you too (but not so confident that she's arrogant or doesn't listen to you!)
I hope it goes well! 
 Paying is hard.... you know, my T is super expensive, and not in-network for my insurance (so I'm going to have to fit for a tiny bit of reimbursement, once I meet the crazy high deductible). It causes me extra stress that feels a little bit unfair (like, geez, do I really need to nearly go broke to get mental health help?) But, I think you're right. If you can get help with her... then doing whatever you need to pay for it will be worth it. As I said before, I think you're awesome - and I absolutely believe that you've got a ton to offer the world. I hope that with therapy, you'll believe that too! 
And... so your state insurance doesn't cover it at all? Not even as an out-of-network provider?
 Good luck!!! |
Nope. Medi-Cal only usually covers 8-16 individual sessions per year for adults. I saw my T for a total of 72 sessions. Since they approve by blocks of time, they most likely will not approve again this year. And even if they did, it would be for 8 sessions and then we'd have to fight for more. I doubt a new T will be willing to take on that fight. And then you have to take into account that my T told Medi-Cal (actually the head of Medi-Cal and the head of Optum - Optum oversees mental health for Medi-Cal in San Diego) that it was her opinion that individual therapy isn't beneficial to me, and they agreed. It's a battle I'm just not sure I have the strength to fight. Last time I fought, I spent so much emotional energy, I had a breakdown, and went to a crisis house (also because of my fiance breaking my elbow). I'm already in a fragile state and don't think fighting Medi-Cal is a practical choice atm.
But I just talked to the T. I will be seeing her next Thursday at 7:30pm. That's really late to be traveling down to where she's at. 40 miles away... I won't get back home till 9 something. But she said that we can try to fund a better time in the future. She also said that she will work with me on the finances. I told her the $50 a week is doable, but when I start their group, $75 is really above my budget. After I pay my normal bills, I only have $240 left at the end of the month
I know my fiance will help, but he has a lot of debt himself...$16k. And this month we found out we both need about $5k of dental work each which would be another $250 monthly payment each
I hope this T works out. She really seems nice. She's in her 50's which is good. If I do develop an attachment, our age difference will make it less awkward. But I'm scared of getting attached again. I didn't want to with last T. It just happens.
Is attachment even allowed in DBT?
Then there's trust issues, now severe abandonment issues... I'm so scared to start over!
How do you start over?
Last time I started over right after ending with a T, I found a bad T. I stayed with her for 2 years just because I was afraid to look for anyone else
I wish I was healthy enough to hold down a job so I could support myself better and have more options.