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Old Mar 21, 2015, 01:47 AM
NoddaProbBob NoddaProbBob is offline
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Originally Posted by Hooligan View Post
Hi NoddaProbBob

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with your ED.

And that your friend distanced hereself from you.

I think that our friends can find it difficult to help us if they don't know what to do.

Your friend is concerned about you because she cares about you.

I think that when she said that she can't care about you any more than you care about yourself she really wants you to get well.

Remember that regardless of whether or not your friend went about the approach the appropriate way - she is still your friend and she still cares about you.

Having an ED does come with a degree of guilt, it does. There are so many emotions involved that come into play here. And guilt would be one of them. Anger at telling her, this I do understand. Personally I even regret some of the things that I tell others.

Remember that there is no "right" way for your friend to have approached this.

She is your friend.

She cares about you.

She really does.

Please hang in there.
I think her strong reaction is an indicator that she does care...it was the strong desire to want me to fix this and do something about it right now. I have always struggled with ED thoughts, but the behaviors weren't present until just about a year ago. This is fairly new for me. I'm still learning how to navigate it and figure out what it means in my life...

I just feel like she could have approached it in a different way. I felt like she was demanding that I automatically get better and do something right this instant...If I've learned anything, it's that it doesn't work that way...at all.
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