I don't really know if it's the same but when I told my mum about my eating issues she would call it childish and stupid and told me about all of the risks like never being able to have kids, being really sick and even death. I already knew about all the risks, I read about eating disorders a lot. She just doesn't understand, she thinks I chose this.

About your friend... I understand her reaction and her being worried but I agree with you, she could've acted differently.