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Mar 21, 2015, 02:03 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2014
Location: US
Posts: 156
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Originally Posted by pinkflower17
I'm so sorry. It's so hard to admit you have a problem and then to basically have it thrown back in your face...well, that sucks. I'm sure that wasn't the reaction you were looking for. I had a lot of my friends kind of 'leave" me when I first started really struggling and had my first Inpatient hospitalization. There were some who stuck around, and I think it's times like this you find out who your true friends really are. It was really hard though. Some of them, I thought I'd be friends with for life. A lot of them distanced themselves because, they told me later, they were sure I was going to die and didn't want to put themselves through the pain of losing me. I don't know if that's playing a factor.
Your friend is probably just frustrated and scared and doesn't know what to do. Neda Communications, Inc. ? neda.com has a lot of good resources for friends and family members. Maybe suggest she take a look at that?
It its hard to seek help and conquer these demons and it really does sound like she could have approached it better. Could you have a conversation with her about this? Something along the lines of "I appreciate your concern, I want to get better, but that's not the best way to help me right now, here are some resources if you're interested and I'd really appreciate your support in overcoming this"? Or something like that.
Having everything going for you doesn't have a damn thing to do with struggling with an eating disorder and it really bothers me when people assume that. I'm a doctor, when I was at my sickest, I was engaged, pregnant, had tons of friends and it should have been the happiest time of my life. Then, partially due to the eating disorder, I had a 32 week stillbirth, my engagement broke up a few months ago and like I mentioned previously, my friends slowly started distancing themselves. And I was isolating a lot at the time, so some of that I'm sure was partially me.
Are you seeing a therapist/psychiatrist/physician/nutritionist right now? Any kind of treatment team? Going to any kind of support groups? Maybe you could start small and show her you're willing to make changes, it's just going to be a long, slow process. The average (average) recovery from anorexia is 5-7 years and approx. 3-5 for bulimia. It's probably not going to change overnight.
I'm sorry you're going through all this and I hope some of these suggestions help. Please feel free to PM me anytime. I'd love to help in anyway I can. I feel like I've been in your shoes more than once. I totally get it.
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Thank you for sharing part of your story with me. I am sorry to hear of the losses you've endured...
I'm going to send you a short PM.
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