I had a boyfriend who "decided" if I wasn't with him then I was "obviously" with someone else that evening! It use to infuriate me because there was no way to "convince" him of anything else but. . . now I know he was illogical; it wasn't about me at all in any way, shape or form.

Your mother asking if you were hitting the bottle SeptemberMorn is like the old phrase that makes me laugh when someone says something dumb, "Did you walk to school or carry your lunch?" Are you hitting the bottle makes no sense if you've never been a drinker. It doesn't say anything about you that she asked the question; yes, it hurts like the blazes that your mother/my stepmother, etc. didn't understand us and we all obviously had wires crossed in the communications department but don't take your mother's opinions any further than they should go -- you aren't a drinker and you know that. That's "you" not her single, random, where-did-THAT-come-from???? question.