I agree with H and TWO that your power/control over therapy (or lack of it) seems to be the most fundamental issue. Dealing with such emotionally charged material, you have to be able to voice your discomfort/challenges with her approach and have that be respected.

Please, if you are going along with this because you won't/can't see another therapist, at least consider that there are other options if you continue to feel worse. I always thought I could not get up the energy or will to try again, but I always did. Each time, I was able to define more and more what I was looking for and responded to. It shouldn't have to take as long as I did, though. I think coming here might give you a good sense for what you can and should expect.