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Mar 21, 2015, 12:42 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2013
Location: US
Posts: 9,040
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Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki
Scarlet,
Forgive me if you've already answered this question. Did you email your therapist and request a formal termination session? And either she didn't respond or said no?
And yes, the nights are hard, I agree.
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When I read this from her reply:
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On Tuesday I planned to discuss my concerns with you, and to recommend that we begin the process of referring you to another more clinically appropriate therapist. I was not expecting that Tuesday would be our last session, and I was expecting to provide ample time to process our termination.
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I wrote her:
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* I hope you forgive me for my actions this Tuesday.
* I hope you let me see you a few more times.
* I hope you can provide me with reassurance.
* I hope we can discuss what actually happens to our relationship (does it just disappear? Will you ever be my therapist again? Is there ever a possibility to even meet up with you once in awhile? Can I maintain contact? Can I get some level of support from you?)
* I want to know what your hopes are for me.
* I want help figuring out what my next steps are and making sure I'm on the right path.
* I want as many hugs as you are willing to give before I no longer am your client.
* I would like to record a session with you so I can always go back and listen to you.
* I would still like a letter from you, a tangible object (which we never got to compromise on) and a picture of you (please!).
* I want to end this on a good note. I want to remember this relationship for all the good. I still don't understand, but you know you have helped me a lot. I want that to be my memory of you; not this pain.
...I feel that it would be most beneficial to work with you through this transition.
...Please give me the opportunity to experience this the way it's meant to be done, the way you intended. It would mean so much to me.
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She wrote me:
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I am also glad that you understand that my intention is to help you and not hurt you. The best way I can be helpful at this point is to coordinate with you current and future treatment providers. Since I am no longer your therapist, we won't be able to meet to discuss things further. If you would like to reinstate a release with your current providers, allowing me to speak to them on your behalf, I would be happy to do so. They can fax me a copy of the new release. I hope you find a new therapist you connect with. Also, I know writing is a coping skill of yours; however, all future communications will need to be through your current and future providers.
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So yes, I asked for the an appropriate termination process and she said no 
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