Not sure what you mean so Im going to write what happens to me -

Sometimes my therapist and I will be talking and she will say something that reminds me of my father and then I get mad at her for it instead of being mad because of what my father said or did to me.

one time when I was super mad at my therapist she kept pushing me until it finally clicked that I wasnt mad at her but at my father. I was so embarrassed that I went off at her about that thing that my father did. But she told me not to worry about it. thatm its what therapy is and is for - my taking my problems about what happened out in other ways then what I was doing -cutting and burning - that her job is to be a sounding board for me to yell at, be mad at and work my problems out with. She said my doing this - feeling like she was my father in that session was called my transfering my feelings for my father into her and its a good thing and is expected with therapy.

Its happened many times over since then and each time my therapist is ok with it. She never creates the situations when it happens because she's not a mind reader and doesn'tt know what all my triggers are about my father and what happened. the transference situations just happen naturally without her nor I planning them and when it does happen we take care of it right away like her pushing me until I recognized I was mad at my father not her but because she said something that he had said to me I went off.

Another thing my therapist and I deal with all the time is my confusion about being attached to her vs my transferring past issues on to her. One time I thought my thinking about her and needing to call her voicemail everynight before bed in order for me to be calm enough to get sleep was transferance. But then she asked me if in the past I had someone that I had needed to be with me in order to sleep, if so then yes my having to call her voicemail as a calming tool before bed was transferance. But if not and I just did it because I liked her and trusted her then that means I am appropiately attached to her.