I agree and I hope I didn't come off as being anything but supportive. I apologize if I did, sorry. I guess I take the same approach with others that I recognize myself needing...Brutal honesty. I trust you know what you need to do and should do but it's hard because stopping ourselves from doing something that feels good isn't easy for many people.

A therapist will help you transition back to your old self sans side guy. I am not saying to stop for your husband but for yourself. It's blatantly obvious it's hurting you. Goes against your morals Blah blah ect ect. Hiding an affair is just as shameful as when I used to hide the bottle. I've done both so no judgement here.