Dear Saudade -- Give yourself a big reward for getting treatment and for your maturity and insight in recognizing that it is YOUR growth that caused the break-up, not some defect in you. Brava!

I recently read a book called The Heart's Code by Paul Pearson or Person, something like that. In it he reminds that to love, to care, means that we must make ourselves vulnerable -- and so it is always those we care about most who have the greatest power to wound us. Doesn't make the pain hurt less but does remind me that it's part of being a well-rounded human being, part of the human experience.

Thanks for sharing your growth.

((((((((Saudade)))))))))