(((marieburch))),

I have been reading through your thread. Wow, you were very young when you met him and six years with him, you are now 24, and he is 29? He was only 23 when he met you, I think he had a sense of superiority just by age alone at first.

Did he go to college? Does he have a degree?

You know, he moved in with you and you were the provider, and while he has a job, it sounds like his family is the provider. Even though he works, it doesn't really sound like he really "left" the dependent stage.

I think in his mind he is blaming "you" for that. Also, the fact that he needed to make sure that house was only in "his" name shows me even back then, he was still threatened by you.

In everything you have discussed here about what he "does say", means to me that he is a very insecure person. Also, his timing is significant because you are getting so close to getting your masters, even though he wont admit it, that is a major threat to him.

Always remember something about "what people say", always look for when they are critical as often what they say is "projecting their own issues onto you". Often a friendship or a relationship can go along and seem good, then something like this happens and this person is all of a sudden "attacking you" and needs to tell you "it is your fault". Also, never once in all of this did he even want to think about YOUR FEELINGS, right? When a person is projecting "their issues on you", the last thing they will have is EMPATHY for you. You could be struggling, and need to vent, THAT IS NOT CONSIDERED and WILL EVEN BE CONDEMED. The reason is, it is NOT ABOUT YOU, instead it is about THEM, and these people tend to pick the person they often feel LESS THAN somehow.

You say, YOU have been his therapist right? He struggles to talk, however, because he has your attention now, he is talking right? Again, it's all about HIM. He did not really care about where you slept either right, again ALL ABOUT HIM. He went out and bought a boat and told you right? Again, ALL ABOUT HIM. He won't go see a therapist right? Well, that means he doesn't want to take responsiblity for himself.

Didn't you say he bought this house and told you he did it for you? NOT Why would he even say that then, HE NEEDED TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT HIMSELF.

Are you seeing the pattern here?

Actually, from what you have said, he is showing some Narcissistic Patterns. Keep in mind they "can't empathize". You have in this entire thread been expressing the "classic confusion" of someone who partners up with an individual that has these Narcissistic Patterns.

Some food for thought.