(((cakeladie)))

I'm so sorry to hear this.

This is really difficult.

I understand your husband's reasoning behind wanting to get you to start planning but boy that is hard. Yes, to me, this seems weird .... I'd really struggle with the concept if it was me, so please forgive yourself and be gentle on your soul for thiking this. Of course I understand this: "I feel like if we do that then the end is near ..." yes, for sure I mean he's asking you to plan for the end ...... I just don't know, I am very sorry, because I have never been in your situation so I would not want to cause offense. I really think that you should do what your heart is telling you to do in this situation.

With everything else going on a migrane is not nice at all. Don't worry about feeling useless there, you've got a lot on. Please be gentle to your mind.

It is weird it is really weird to even begin to comprehend the concept of planning for a funeral that could take place next week or in 5 years. It is hard. It really is.

If it were me, personally I don't think I'd want an overinvolvement in this type of planning if I sat where you are today.

I'd like to think that perhaps there are some aspects I could contribute towards that would leave a loving legacy for my cherished ones to remember. Because you are a wonderful person and indeed are loved by many.

How do you want them to remember you by?

I know you are suffering now but there was a time before all of this began. Nobody forgets this time. These are the lasting loving memories our loved ones will hold on to dear and cry tears of happiness and sorrow all at the same time when they remember us.

What is a song that holds significance for you? Something that when people hear it they would remember it being played and weep tears of sadness and joy remembering the beautiful person that you are?

I really like the song Don't You Forget About Me. This holds significance for me. It always reminds me of Maddie McCaine. You know I can't see Maddie McCaine. I don't know where Maddie McCaine is right now. But I do think of her. And every time I hear that song I am reminded - I will never forget Maddie.

What phrase / saying would you like to depart to others to remember you by? So that when other's remember this phrase they remember how awesome you are. You've always been awesome; it's just really hard to hold onto this concept.

I really like Nelson Mandela's quote: "I learnt that courage was not the absence of fear , but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."

What an amazing man he is for me.

27 years in prison.

Yet he never hated his captors?

Was released and felt compassion.

That's pretty amazing!

What is your favourite song?

I really like Leanne Rimes version - "Some say Love" - here:



Love is beautiful.

But love is pain.

It never dies though.

It is a flower.

And you it's only seed.

It's the heart, afraid of breaking, that never learns to dance.
It's the dream, afraid of waking, that never takes the chance.
It's the one who won't taken, who can not seem to give.

And the soul, afraid of dying, that never learns to live.

And the night, has been too lonely, and the road, has been too long.
And you think, that love is only, for the lucky, and the strong.
Just remember, in the Winter far beneath the bitter snow .....

Lies the seed

That with the sun's love

In the spring

Becomes the rose.

I will never forget you and this post.