(((brokenandalone)))

I am sorry to hear about this argument.

I just really think that he's not appreciative of your own personal needs, this is my personal opinion, I am sorry that I am so honest here.

But for him to be so commanding over the shoes you wear .....

Of what significance is it to him?

Aren't we allowed to dress as we see appropriate and the best for our particular style...

I'm being serious here -

I mean if my husband gave me a pair of tennis shoes and said here you are going to wear this out now I'd be like "Erm, sorry, pardon, what, please repeat" lol and this has been going on for a while for you now so in some aspects I'm not suprised you said you hate him over shoes ....... it's the words that came out of your mouth.

What you hate is -

The fact that he has to be so controlling in regards to aspects of your appearance that you do feel comfortable in.

I mean you've got enough going on already with other insecurities with regards to how you look -

So I mean really why should he be taking this small privilege away for you?

I don't think he's being very fair here to be honest.

Do you hand him golf shoes when you go to the mall and tell him here - wear these?

Well of course you don't.

You don't need to and nor should you.

Try that next time.

"Here honey I'll put the tennis shoes on at the mall; please take these golf shoes; you can wear these, because honey, me walking around in tennis shoes at the mall and you walking around in golf shoes makes about as much sense as believing that the Tooth Fairy truly does exist."

Don't hate too much the fact that you're comfy in heels and boots.

Look, it's YOUR style.

It's YOUR body.

It's YOUR comfort zone.

Can you buy your fiance matching male tennis shoes? Maybe you should give him a pair and demand that he wears them too. Maybe he should wear them to work?

Do you see my point here?

I really don't expect you to be giving your partner ANY shoes and commanding that he wears them and nor should he be giving you any shoes and commanding that you wear them.

It just doesn't make sense at all.

He needs to stop being so controlling.