marieburch,

I will say that sometimes a person actually can be bullied at work and abused and that can get them confused and lost and seriously doubting themselves too. Some people even have developed PTSD because of that too.

He could be extremely confused and depressed and so much so that he may even be questioning if "you" are going to abandon him too.

As I mentioned, I struggled a lot with my husband, especially at that age. He often was mean to me and he was also in denial too. There were many times he "blamed me" too.
I was young, and often very confused. My husband often expressed Narcissistic Patterns, only I did not understand that, I did not have access to the internet as people do now either.

I am not telling you to get a divorce either. However, this situation is definitely a red flag that needs to be gotten to the bottom of.

My advice though, is get your masters, that "is" a priority for you right now. Don't let him pull you into a craziness that prevents you from achieving that either. I will say that Narcissists do like to have "the control" and they do see the gain of others as a threat too. It has never ceased to amaze me how far they will go to tear down another they perceive as a threat somehow either. They "always" leave a wake of confusion behind them too.

(((Hugs)))
OE