i worked for an old bag as a cook in her home. she used to complain about everything and i hated her so much. then after a year or torment i was told she had alzeihmers (sp) and that can cause ppl to say mean things. maybe your mothers have some brain problem. maybe they are so unhappy they take it out on everyone around them. but geesh, that gang bang accusation is well out of order. what a horrible thing ot say. best stay away from her. some ppl are just so toxic that you CAN'T have a relationship with them no matter how much you want it.
take care.