Madmusician,

Yep. After much drama over a three year period, we're living together now. But over the time period it's kind of faded to something that I would call more real, as in I know that I can live without him if I must although I wouldn't want to, and that while he's the brightest star in my sky he's not the sun. It's more... grounded. I think that first rush, while exciting, can sometimes be confusing, cause you can mix up the image of who they really are with who you want them to be.

If that makes sense.

I don't have anything much to say about the marriage thing, since it's way out of my experience to date. But for the sake of your own well-being, it'd probably be good to keep on acting honourably with respect to your husband, and call it a day before venturing onto anything with the new person.