i have several diagnoses myself and have a real problem commiting to plans with people. if i make plans ahead of time, i am anxious about it for days or hours before the time comes. just today i cancelled going with someone for their birthday which has been planned since friday. i felt so bad letting him down and i do so enjoy spending time with him. i wish i had never accepted so that i hadnt diasppointed him. i was filled with such dread i couldnt do it. i usually automatically say no to all invites. it isnt about the person. it is about me. so dont take it personally.