i agree with all above. you have to realize he has to do something for himself first, not you. you can help him get help somehow, see a doc and t, there are clinics in most places, that are either free or cheap. school counselors too. anxiety is hard to deal without help and he needs to learn skills to combat it. it is not you, it is himself, and up to himself to get the help he desperately needs. i wish both of you well.