I have a hard time trusting anyone. When I finally allowed myself to admit that I cared about my therapist and trusted him, that's what attachment meant to me. When I started therapy, I wasn't worried about my attachment needs, but as things got deeper, we weren't able to do any real work until I felt secure. I know there was some instability in my growing up, but I also suffered some trauma as an adult. I can't say where my need for attachment comes from or if what I call "attachment" is normal therapeutic bond.