(((((((((((((Jacq)))))))))))))))

As your friend, even if it's only online -

* Don't hate yourself. Try, very hard. You are only good things, trust an outsider's perspective on this.
* You are plenty of nice things, you've told me I am countless times, it only makes sense that it also is the same for you.
* Don't should yourself. You are what you are, you might not like it but take it from a friend, shoulding yourself only makes things worse (remind me of that when I whine and complain, okay?)
* I'm sorry you're miserable, if I can help at all, let me know. I mean that.
* You have awesome friends because you are a FANTABULOUS friend. (BTW, that is a a billion times better than awesome) You attract good people as friends because you give us so much
* I don't know who I am either, if thats any consolation. I know it isn't, but I'll help you in any way if it helps you find out who you are
* I don't believe the nice things people say about me either ... it's hard, really hard. Who believes something that goes against what we feel/think about ourselves? Its hard, but when someone says something nice - try to not deny it outright. I'll try too.
* You think things through, thats something I like about you, you're very thoughtful.
* How are you incompetent?
* What do you lie to yourself about? I think everyone lies to themselves ... I know I do a lot, it can help sometimes.
* Are not an idiot. You're a smart cookie.
* How are you horrible? I can honestly say you are one of the most wonderful, thoughtful, funny, studious, briliant people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.

I'm sorry, don't take my rebuttals the wrong way but I didn't know how to help. I could have honestly made this post myself. I may not know how you feel, and all that you're going through right now but I can understand some of the stuff. It hurts, it sucks, and I'll bet it probably feels like it won't ever get better...

It will. If I have bother you constantly and tell absolutely horribly corny jokes to cheer you up - I'll do it. (You know my ridiculous sense of humour...)

All seriousness aside, if there's absolutely anything I can do to help - let me know. Even if there's nothing I can do to help, give me a holler just to chat. I mean it, I'm going to keep extending that invitation to you.

Try to be good to yourself my lovely friend.