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Originally Posted by Loyaltomysoil
I've been dating what I consider to be my first love for seven months now. In the beginning he would drive down to see me (he lives 45 minutes away from me) and we would go out and do normal things couples do. Three months ago he came out to me that he has anxiety, he doesn't want to meet my family and can't drive anymore to see me due to his anxiety so I take the bus up to see him. He's been really distant lately and has told me he needs time to figure his problems out. I'm hurt because I'm the only one whom he confided his anxiety issues to, not even his family knows, and he's been pushing me away ever since. I know he needs time but I invested so much love into this im hurt that he can't love me the same and I'm worried he never did. He did a complete 360 on me. He's also worried about me cheating on him due to his past girlfriend cheating on him twice. I feel like he acquired anxiety from that. Is that possible? His mother also cheated on his father. He doesn't want to seek help because he says a therapist is expensive. What can he do to get better on his own? Did the anxiety make him lose love for me? He told me he would
regret losing me for the rest of his life but he's making no effort whatsoever to talk to me. What do I do. I can't lose him to this I love every piece of him. Please help me he's not the man I fell in love with anymore. Could it be me?
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Every time I confined with someone I became intimate with I would withdrawal from them. All the negative thoughts I have about myself, I thought they could see and that made feel ashamed, weak, scared, venerable, causing me to withdrawal and push them away. I never told them how it made me feel...knowing they knew my secret.
Please. Don't blame yourself or let him shift the blame on you.