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Originally Posted by CameraObscura
That jumped out at me. Is it possible that if you feel you have to tiptoe, or hide how important things really are to you, that you can't really relax and trust that your therapist is there for you? Maybe talk to her about that?
Feeling that that bothers me sometimes, and my therapist and worked out the five reasons he would ever terminate with me, what he would do if I started emailing too much, and he reminds me that I can say anything. I still struggle and push and pull against it (attachment problems over here). I still know I'm a job, and it's not comfortable, but I can whine and complain about it as much as I want if I need to.
What you describe would probably bother me some, and I'd talk it through next session -- and then something else would bother me, and we'd have to talk through that. I don't know where good Ts get the patience.
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Thank you. camera. You sound a lot like me. I do know that my T is there for me and I trust her. I also know that I can talk about anything. The problem with emailing is that I used to get disappointed with her responses. She originally said I could email as much as I wanted but she did not want to do therapy via email. So, we discussed what to do and mutually decided that I could write her but she wouldn't answer, except for scheduling.
That was better for me until a year ago when I had to reduce my sessions to every 2 weeks from weekly ones. Then my husband suddenly got sick with an incurable disease. When we were in the hospital, T started answering every email, and I asked if she could continue doing so, as I was no longer disappointed by them.
I have been fine with her responses for 7 months so I want to keep that up. If I can't handle disappointment in her emails, then we have to discuss what to do. Like you, my T and I discuss everything!
