Thats kinda the point i was trying to make. My t doesnt decide case by case; he just has one rule - he gets the last word. But its a genuinely caring word. With my parents, it was a whatever word - who know wtf it meant. So yeah, my t is kinda treating me like a two year old, but hey i never GOT treated like a two year old - its kinda nice. No hemming and hawing. Just - here is stability and dependability. No questions asked. I feel like rainbows t is picking and choosing, and that makes it seem less stable.

Thats all - reasons for the difference might get into, how often does the client email, how often are sessions, etc etc - but thats beside the point of what makes it FEEL more or less stable.