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Originally Posted by BeaFlower
Hi Shy Introvert. I understand, it happens often also to me not to feel comfortable in groups. And it happens also to me (expecially it happened when I used to go to parties with many people...now I practically stopped) that I think to behave 'normally', but people don't seem interested in interacting with me. My idea is, like you said, that maybe our discomfort is visible though we try to hide it, and this doesn't encourage people to talk to us. I don't know. In this case, maybe you just need time to feel more comfortable in that group, and then you'll become to appear more natural and things will change.
At least you kept in contact with one lady. You could try to know better other people through her.
Hope that you feel more comfortable soon. I know that it's not pleasant to have to struggle to find something to say when everyone else seem to be having fun  |
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Hi, thanks for responding to my novel, lol. Sorry to hear that happens to you too! I don't get why other people wouldn't at least try to be friendly back after they can clearly see that we are trying to make conversation and say hi. I don't get it.
Wouldn't a nice person TRY to make others more comfortable and not reject them for trying to talk to them? I always talk to people who talk to me. I wish that more people would approach me. This is so hard! Yeah, at least I was able to connect with one lady from the group. I might ask her what she thinks of the people in the group so that I can tell if it's just me or not.
Maybe most of the people in the group know each other better since they usually have dinner together at the same place most of the time and then they talk about the movie after that most of the time. The fact that I arrive when they're getting the check and that I usually leave soon after the movie gave them a bad impression, idk.
Does anyone else have any other opinions on this? Maybe they're just rude and not that friendly?