I told T that I feel no matter how many hoops I make her jump through to prove herself to me, it doesnt change how I feel inside..T said because trust is a feeling you have its not what someone does...you just trust....I said that means then I have to learn to trust inside of me...to know if someone does something that "lets me down" that I am ok with me still???

I think when your looking for trust in someone, your measuring everything about them....they become magnified...trust can't be made this way....because under a magnifying glass, everyone comes up short....

I guess I'm judging people by their actions and not by who they are???

Yes trust is a feeling...I think because someone like T has that feeling..people naturally respond "to her" in a trustworthy way...if you greet someone in an hostile way...they are going to react and not respond...

HHmmm it seems trust is a much simpiler thing to have then I am thinking...I asked T why don't I trust? what am I afraid o? she tipped her back and thought for a way of putting it to me...the replied...because people have let you down...I guess as an adult I can cope emotionally better now if people let me down...trust is for me to have and not for them to prove??? taking back my power???