I think it's intuition.... but I will admit I've said obsessing myself.
She did say that, yes. Although it was not in a negative tone, she said something like "this is your therapy. I have nothing to gain from it, you do." So purely non-negative, but it still stung for her to say it, because I think we can change and/or grow from everyone we interact with. With every client a T has, if nothing else, they gain experience. I'll include the story that was in the book I mentioned.... just because I found it interesting. But wow...this movie was just proof. What a powerful ending! I will definitely watch it again sometime.

Here's that part of the book I mentioned....

Let the Patient Matter to You

It was more than thirty years ago that I heard the saddest of psychotherapy tales. I was spending a year's fellowship in London at the redoubtable Tavistock Clinic and met with a prominent British psychoanalyst and group therapist who was retiring at the age of seventy and the evening before had held the final meeting of a long-term therapy group. The members, many of whom had been in the group for more than a decade, had reflected upon the many changes they had seen in one another, and all had agreed that there was one person who had not changed whatsoever: the therapist! In fact, they said he was exactly the same after ten years. He then looked up at me and, tapping on his desk for emphasis, said in his most teacherly voice: "That, my boy, is good technique."

I've always been saddened as I recall this incident. It is sad to think of being with others for so long and yet never to have let them matter enough to be influenced and changed by them. I urge you to let your patients matter to you, to let them enter your mind, influence you, change you, and not to conceal this from them.