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Echoes said: That is, what determines the way we experience the transference? Does it come from the client's needs or the traits of the therapist or both or ??

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Well, as I said earlier, I change T's role in my l ife according to my needs. I have therapy later today and tomorrow I am having cataract surgery. So I am a bit nervous. Therefore, right now I am thinking about T as a father figure. I need comfort and reassurance from him today and so he becomes father.

Hey! Lightbulb moment!!! I just realized, as I typed this, how automatically I placed him in father role as opposed to mother role when I needed some comfort..... Hmmmmmmm

So, his needs better not conflict with mine right now!