At what point?

Whenever they're ready to reveal themselves....


If we're lucky, that's before we say I do, or at least quite early on in the relationship.


If not, well we either have a situation like yours, or the one I found myself in a few years back.


Dated a guy for 5 years, he was mostly on his best behavior, but little did I know I was being groomed to be his designated punching bag.


So yeah, we know them when they allow us to get to know them....