I have to vent about something since nobody wants to help or listen. *apologies in advance*

I'm very stressed out and feel very bad right now. I don't want to type out the entire chain of events, but it's typical and somehow I seem to always be deemed as the "bad one" when things are planned and they fall through. When it's my sister and my mom who are the ones planning the events and then say things about me behind my back without verification of any of it and then it gets misinterpreted. I hear about it, I get upset and then I'M THE ONE TO BLAME.

I don't get it. I don't even want to go see my family on father's day - it's father's day I know, but I really honestly do not feel like going to see my family at all. Isn't that sad? In fact I never enjoy family get togethers with my immediate family. I always feel very stressed and not myself. I go on for days with a pit in my stomach after talking to my sister about a family event or to clear up a problem with the event. So much so I have skin problems after these stressful events.

I really want to completely severe relationships with my own family (more than I'm doing now). What I was thinking of doing from here on out is: I only will call on special events to say hi and send well wishes. If someone calls me, I will chat and not say much, just be cordial and nice. If mom complains about my sister or dad, I should just say "ya ya" etc and not ask questions or try to help out. I will not go physically to family gatherings unless they want to drive out to see us or if we are invited.

My sister has an uncanny ability to block out people when they are speaking. And then regurgitate pieces of what she heard in some skewed manner and sometimes completely made up as well. Just about everything I say or suggest is a 'bad idea' or gets pushed off as not important. In fact, none of my concerns is important to my sister - she doesn't care how I feel about anything. My mom just doesn't listen. My dad? He just goes along with whatever my mom says.

The worse part of it? I feel like it really is just me and I'm really the one who has problems.

By the way, I am not close with my sister for years because we are not compatible people. I love her as a sister but I hate her as a friend. My mom likes my sister and her husband more than me and my husband -- that's ok tho, I have accepted this years ago.

Hopefully this is acceptable how I'm handling this. And I don't think I want to "repair" anything as I feel there is nothing to repair.