My significant other and I first connected on Tumblr of all places! . As the saying goes, "Tumblr makes me love people I've never met, Facebook makes me hate people I've known all my life." LOL.

I happen to be a moderator on OKCupid (not as awesome as it sounds, believe me), and in being a moderator, I am more confused than ever as to what to write in a message to a woman

I used to send messages to women introducing myself, commenting on what they wrote about themselves (indicating I actually read their profiles), etc., trying to start conversation, but was universally ignored or later rejected because of my unusual interests (there is literally nothing about me I can write about that is 'normal' or socially acceptable).

On more than one occasion though a user sent a misogynistic, provocative, and dehumanizing message to a woman that was reported to us moderators, but women in my experience responded to those messages, even if negatively although not always negatively

Online dating is like fishing – all you can do is throw a line in a pond and hope for the best. You never know what you can catch! .