I too have anger issues.

We have a three year old daughter, and toddlers can be so maddening at times, and I had difficulty adjusting to the fact that I wasn't going to be able to show any emotion at all at home because I would never be alone, and I didn't want to scare her with my rages. I used to be a book thrower, a plate smasher, a kick holes in doors kind of person on occasion. I can't be that way now.

When she was two and really trying I used to lock myself in the bedroom and sit against the door, but that always made her upset and she would scream MOMMY MOMMY and try to get in. I felt like a monster! And it only made it worse when my husband said that would be traumatizing for a kid. But what would be more traumatizing? Seeing mommy in an angry, toy throwing rage, or having her give herself a time out in the bedroom?

Luckily she's a good kid for the most part, and it was just that two age I found the most difficult in controlling my anger.

Now when I'm unbearably angry I go for long car rides and scream at the top of my lungs. Sounds crazy, but it feels really good, and it's the only time I'm able to express my negative emotions! I've gone for long car rides and cries too.

Maybe doing something like that would help you control your anger at home, by getting it all out when you're alone.

Hugs. And good luck.