I say she's being disrespectful based on this....

She says that she can't control who contacts her.

Any other time I'd say ok, give her freedom, trust her....

But, this is a defense tactic. FEMALES ARE NOT STUPID! If we want a guy to go away, we know how to make them go away!

Guys are pretty easy to figure out. If we give them no attention, they go away. (Aside from stalkers and creep-o's.) Its also perfectly acceptable to set up reasonable boundaries. (Read: She has none!) So what I'm saying is that given the fact that you have said she LOVES attention, yes, she IS indeed feeding into getting attention from these guys! She has piss-poor boundaries. She much rather have the attention from a lot of nobodies rather than one very important somebody. Let her go because she's immature and not ready to settle down. You both want different things.

I personally rather have the attention of one single solitary special person instead of a lot of nobodies. In my life I've seen how all of this attention doesn't amount to a pile of beans, its superficial at best. Let her get her attention elsewhere. At some point she'll realize that those people don't care about her.

Find somebody who is on the same wavelength as you. If this relationship continues and there isn't compromise on both sides, its pretty much doomed to fail as you both have different ideas as to what you want in a relationship.