What's is called when you have a family member coming to stay for 10 days and all you can think of is having everything PERFECT??

As some of you know my middle son (step-son) is coming from Oregon to visit. I raised him from the time he was 3 until 18 when he graduated from high school. He's been living in OR. all this time close to his birth mother. I'm driving hubby and my personal provider NUTZ doing things and making them just perfect... from the ceilings, walls and floor and in hidden corners. I don't want him to see anything dirty or out of place. So much so that...

I woke up from a nightmare this morning crying and pissed as hell!!! In my dream, my son, hubby and kids were at Disneyland. We were walking past a swimming pool and I saw a familiar figure reclining on a chase among a bunch of stuff. I asked hubby "Is that Loretta? Look at those big eyes! Look at those big eyes!" I stopped and went back around to where she was but when I got there, we were inside a building. Chuck (my son) was at the opposite side of the building where she was. I saw her and turned back to him and put my arms around him as if to protect him. She said or it was understood that she was there to collect him and take him home. I said she couldn't because I had plans for the last two days he was going to be with us. He looked at her and with a question in his voice he said "A couple more days?" He seemed torn between the two of us. Suddenly, I was on her and whaling away on her with a full suitcase... There's where I woke up. It took a while for me to get over my rage and crying after I woke up. My fear is real. I'm so afraid she's not gonna let me enjoy his visit. I'm afraid she's gonna suggest that he go see his cousins in LA while he's down here. NOT ON MY DIME!! She's done this before and we took him down a couple days early so he could visit with HER family! Neither his dad or I were very happy about it. Jerry's with me. He says he's gonna be really pissed if she does it again this time. If we tell Chuck "no", we're gonna look like the bad guys! ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I'm probably borrowing trouble, but...

Oh, and did I mention it was ME who took him out of an abusive situation, it was ME that took him to the dr when he came back all bruised and beaten, it was ME who took the little basket case every other weekend and put him back together until I couldn't stand it anymore and had a lawyer write up a letter to HER stating that his dad and I were protecting him from her and her many abusive boyfriends and she could no longer have unsupervised visitation with him.

Am I wrong in feeling so possesive/protective about him? Yeah, I know! He's 35 and all grown up now raising 2 kids on his own... because history repeated itself.