Makes PERFECT sense actually.

I am very friendly by nature too and sometimes its interpreted as flirty. idk, I don't mean anything by it, I'm not leading anyone on. And as I got older, I actually thought I needed to tone down the smiling and the laughing and the eye contact.


Because more often than not, I would be listening to someone profess their undying love to me, seemingly out of nowhere.


Awkward moments much? yip.


I met my BF's new colleague, and tried the toned down version of me. Afterward, he asked me what was wrong with me, if I wasn't feeling well, because I did not behave like myself at all and he had described a bubbly, friendly, talkative gf, guess he was a bit disappointed....


When I explained myself, he just laughed and said "babe, if they misread your friendliness for flirting, that's their problem, if they get their feelings hurt, again, its their problem. Don't change for anyone"



Could be that the idea of fun and flirty was appealing to you when you met her, but the reality of dating is not as appealing. That may simply mean that you two are in fact incompatible. Unless you can learn to accept her as is, as you initially wanted.

Yes you may feel responsible, but the truth is you really aren't. We are all responsible for our own happiness and wellbeing. And unless she's in physical danger, I think she seems safe to me.


My bf is very concerned and protective, always has been, lonnnng before we started dating, and he's a year younger than me. So trust me when I say I get the protective factor.


I text him to say I've arrived safely home from wherever or from work, blah blah, lol, to ease his mind when I'm out without him and he can't play chauffeur.


But the point of the matter is this, unless she gives you a reason to distrust her, you really have no right to. Innocent until proven guilty no?


I really have no clue why you don't trust her, so I'm not at all sure what could help you get to that point.


For all I know it's not even her, it could be a past relationship (as was in my case) so it may be an issue completely independent of her and her behavior.


I distrusted my bf, because of my ex bf, and all I did was create problems that didn't exist.

So I just made a conscious choice to trust him, until he proves me wrong.

So far so good 😊