Hi Redbadger

I would like to acknowledge that this is a very akward situation for you to be in.

You do not feel comfortable with the fact that you girlfriend has contact with her ex sexual partners.

Truth be told, I think that others would agree with your being uncomfortable.

I guess the challeng is that she is continuing with this communication despite the fact that you have expressed your insecurity.

I am not sure that I am able to state whethere you are thinking about this wrong.

I think that a lot of this has to do with trust.

This article that I found here on Psych Central gives strategies for a relationship where a partner is still in contact with a less than favourible ex.

So the spin on it is slightly different.

However, I wonder if there is something of value in here that you may be able to try as a strategy -

"My Partner's Ex is Ruining Our Relationship" | Relationships in Balance

Here's a response from me personally -

If I was in a relationship with someone and they were still in contact with an ex partner with whom they shared intimacy - I may feel a little uncomfortable.

By the same token, I need to acknowledge the fact that their relationship existed before mine.

And.

In addition.

I also need to acknowledge the fact that I have a resilient partner.

Because.

If one day my partner and I ever separated, because I love my partner so much, if there was a way that we could remain friends, but not longer be together, I would be happy with that.

And I would love and respect my partner so much more if he did not allow his new partner to attempt to unbind the love that we share, regardless of the fact that we may no longer be in a relationship.