I still chat to my ex FWB, we've remained strictly friends, 10 years after the benefits. I did not take kindly to the bf wanting me to end a friendship based on his insecurities... And look, that bf is long gone but I still have my friendship.


On a similar note, my bf is friends with an ex of his whom he dated very briefly, and in both instances (my case and my bf's) we discovered we were better off friends and have remained so.


Neither my bf nor I have an issue with this type of contact.


Sometimes exes really can be friends, especially if they were friends prior to attempting a relationship.


When I would be worried, is if her contact with her friend takes away from your relationship... Is she confiding in him instead of you, is she in contact with him more than you.... That's worrisome and downright disrespectful.


Friendships aren't a sign of disrespect. Friendship is normal and healthy human behavior.


If you can't handle being exposed to this type of friendship, then you need to own that and do what's right for you, not make it her problem.