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trust is for me to have and not for them to prove???

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Yes I guess it is, isn't it. And that's why I can't hold onto it when I think I've found it. I am not feeling trust,, I'm judging the other person based on what they've done / hoops they've jumped through as you say . That means it it comes and goes. When it's there I feel content, happy, secure, cared about and when it isn't I feel disappointed, betrayed, insecure, unloved.

But yet they have to earn it, don't they? I mean it isn't just something in me that I can allow always. There are conditions and they protect me from untrustworthy ones.

Or is it just my voice that does that, that defines trust the way I see it and want it and expect it.. by setting boundaries about it.

I don't know but you have me thinking more about it.