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Originally Posted by prinssa
I have been distant with him for a couple days since I found out about the pregnancy. He is asking me if I am mad at him, if everything's ok and wants to know how I'm doing. Does he suspect I might be pregnant or am I paranoid? How do I play it off that nothing's up?
Also I have been pregnant before by a previous abusive boyfriend but I miscarried before the abortion appointment. This was very emotionally draining. I was depressed and had anxiety attacks because I was so scared of being pregnant and my ex was not helpful at all. I felt I was losing myself and control over managing life's curve balls so I began to control my dieting and exercise in a non healthy way. I went to counseling and I am still dealing with the effects of the relationship. I am worried this might be the same hurdle again. Another reason why I'd rather not tell him to prevent more trauma. This time I am not at all close to a nervous breakdown as my first pregnancy but I do feel really alone in this situation.
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Don't say anything. Only if he mentions it or obvious recognition of it bring it up then. You either trust him or you don't on that second part. You could use that as a template to follow what you want him to earn your trust on. Part of me feels if he does he does and not he won't. Despite that being in the bind rather if you do want him to trust you. Don't mention the story about the miscarriage and the ex, but make it feel that you have to use your gut instinct whether or not this is healthy for your and that in order for you to trust him. He needs to first earn your trust on this issue that he is pro life on. That he needs to see past his own beliefs in order to move forward or at least any compromise. Rather id wait and just not bring it up to avoid drama and figure our what your next move is.
I'm just a kid on a forum take it for a grain of salt. I honestly don't know and I enjoy giving advice helping others when bored out of my mind.