Thanks yorgutz for that. Very interesting. I too am amazed at all these fun loving, busy, independent women who love their lives, their family (and probably themselves). I doubt they would have time for a partner. I love it when women say 'no time wasters' and 'I don't suffer fools gladly' l think I'll put on my profile 'I love wasting time' and 'I gladly suffer fool's ' haha. I think coming across as nice is taken as being weak. Like you say online dating is much like society. You only get noticed if you are provocative or somehow different. Just being solvent,nice,friendly and funny ain't good enough.