I am at a loss, but battling my own depression and health issues can help me relate to your husband a bit. I often feel overwhelmed by life and although I have never blamed my bf I can see how it would be easy to do that.

I would take time yourself to really think about this situation. Perhaps he is just feeling so much pressure to pay the bills and is catastrophizing things making it really easy to place blame on you.

Now is the time to ask yourself what it is YOU want as well. Loving someone who might lash out at you when things go bad is a reality you have to ask yourself if you are willing to deal with. Can you accept this again when/if things get tough for your husband in the future.

When a person shows you who they are and how they handle things it is important to believe them. That doesn't mean that you have end things. It might just mean that you reaffirm your love for your husband and stand by him no matter what.

I hope things get easier for you. Please keep posting as I know his is hard and probably very unsettling for you.