This is a very sensitive topic for most. I understand your fear of sharing with him what it is you are dealing with and it is truly a decision you have to make.

Perhaps this is a test of your relationship - In more ways than the obvious. It may be a test as to how you view this man and of your vantage point on your future together.

If you believe in a full disclosure relationship then you must tell him about this situation. You two then can discuss the options you have and make a decision together while trusting that you both have each other's best interest at heart. From here you both can grow and see the mutual respect blossom.

That is an ideal situation. The actual situation has a lot of moving parts meaning a few variables here. You could tell him and he could turn on you out of fear, out of his political beliefs or any number of things he drums up.

You could also avoid telling him and have to live with the fact that you kept something rather larger from him in hopes of moving forward with him.

The real truth here is that it is not all black and white and there isn't a set right or wrong answer.

I can tell you what I would do but that won't be helpful to you because you are seeking support not a boss. So, I will say this: I am here for you. I mean here to listen and provide support not judgment.

I feel for you because this isn't an easy situation and not one you would choose for yourself. I am glad you are searching for answers and seeking support instead of letting this difficult situation consume you. That shows strength and bravery.

Post often and know you have some friends in your corner.