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Originally Posted by guilloche
Hiya Scarlet...
I love the apple pillow too, how perfect! Your fiance found that for you? He did good!
re: You looking up the new T (her age, her family, her ethics training, her tipsy cleavage  ) - just be careful! I do that too... not just the looking up stuff, but the picking all kinds of random bits, and analyzing them to death to try to figure out "who this person is" and if it's going to be a good fit. And, I think it hasn't worked out for me... It seems like it should, it seems SO logical... but in reality, people (even Ts!) are so much more complex, that until you're in the room face-to-face actually interacting with them, there's no telling how well you'll click.
I have said this before, and I agree a million percent! I have no idea how it could work though, given some therapists are GREAT with some people, but AWFUL with others. It seems so hard to predict how two people will hit it off. I don't know... it sure would make things easier. There HAS to be an easier way, don't you think?
*hugs* Hang in there. I really hope that the new DBT T does a good job of being kind, empathic, and compassionate when you meet her, and that you get a good feeling and feel like she's a good fit! Fingers crossed for you... (we need a fingers-crossed icon!)    |
Eh. I chose the pillow...lol. He was slacking. But he agreed that it was perfect and he bought it for me. Have to wait for it in the mail. I'm actually excited about it. I could have used it last night.
I know whatever I find on the internet won't define who a person is. But I can get a good vibe from it. I did with my T. I know it's judgemental, but the ones who have pictures that look scary to be, I won't go near. If they consider that a professional picture, then no thank you.
My fear with the DBT T is that she reminds me of my previous bad T. About the same age, both have sons, both single, and they even look the same. The good thing is that I know the therapy itself will be different. I liked my previous T as a person, she just sucked as a T.
And I know I have replied to so many posts that educational level doesn't make a difference, but I'm actually happy that this new T only has her masters. My absolute best T who terminated with me "correctly" was a LCSW. This new one is a MFT.
For the "match.com" with a T and client....it could work. They have surveys, forms, questioners that can match personality already (can use it for both the professional and the client). They have assessments that can help diagnose the client. And then you match the personalities and then match the disorder with the right mode of therapy...and match payment. Not saying it would be perfect, but a lot easier to weed out all the Ts. And it should be used for clients to search only. A T should not have access to the match results for ethical reasons.
And I agree! We need a [fingers-crossed] icon! Or a good luck sign. Something
