((((((Suzi)))) It is SOOO hard to tell people about this. You never know what they will do. If you're anything like me, you don't even know what you WANT them to say or do!! I feel your pain.

Some people just will never understand about si. Some people just need time and lots of education about it. Give your bestfriend some time to deal with her reaction. She is probably scared and confused. She might even feel like it is her fault, like if she had just been there for you, then you wouldn't have done this. The book "Bodily Harm" by Karen Contrerio and Wendy Lader has a section just for loved ones that I think contains some good advice. If you can get ahold of it, maybe you could copy that section and give it to her and ask her to read it. (If you also agree with what it says, that is).

Best of luck to you...
Angela