mouse, i just had a thread a while ago about trust. What i discovered is that trust is not "a" thing or "a" feeling. The word is misleading because it makes it seem like there is a definition, and really there isn't. You have to figure out what it means for you, and that means wading through all the extra stuff you are putting in there. I am surprised but not surprised your T offered you a definition. i mean she knows you right? not me, but she might have hit right on it yet either. My T hadn't. He talked about me "trusting" in what he had to say, and believing him, seeing him as an anchor... which is all true, but that isn't it for me. It isn't even about feeling ok with spilling my guts... or caring if he runs away screaming (like i'd give a $hit). For me it got nailed down to me feeling like he would be able to hear what i wasn't saying... that he would know when i was crying inside even if i couldn't cry outside.. that he would validate and recognize the level of crap i've dealt with.

So, maybe you could start there.. who do you feel you trust? why? then what is different about trusting a t? and so on.