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Old Mar 26, 2015, 05:09 AM
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Originally Posted by prinssa View Post
Whether to have an abortion or keep the pregnancy is not the question. I already made up my mind on that. That's nothing to be changed or even discussed.
I just wanted to know if it was best to let him know what I was doing even though he might be against it. The only reason I feel bad about hiding the pregnancy from him is because he has been a good person to me and I do feel bad about doing something behind his back without at least letting him know what's going on. I feel like if I have to be fair and let him know but then again I'm going to do something he's against so what's the point? I do not plan on being in a relationship with him any more so now I don't even see the point of telling him. I just hope the secret doesn't eat me up or something. He won't be happy about the abortion so why bother getting him upset.
If I understood correctly, you pretty much know that you are not interested in a relationship with him - with or without being pregnant.

Of course you feel bad about the situation - if you did not - that would be cause for concern.

Whatever your decision - do not torture yourself. Only you have control over that.

Friends I know that had an abortion felt relief - that does not mean it was not sad or they do not have a heart. It was honest.

PS: It is the responsibility of you BOTH to be careful having sex...especially if HE considers himself pro-life!
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