I'd say that there are times when my sexuality becomes a larger part of who I am, and most of that is when I am struggling with issues related to relationships or sex. I find it interesting when I think about the question, I ask myself whether I would be the same person if I were straight or gay, rather than being the bisexual that I am. The thing is I don't think I would be a different person, I already know that I can have sexual and emotional relations with both men and women. I know that there are small bits of me that would be different depending on who I would be in a relationship with, but the vast majority of my personality would not change.

I have to admit that there a times where I would like that my bisexuality played a bigger part in my life. I've been in a monogamous heterosexual marriage for almost 20 years, but I experienced my earlier years as homosexual. The reality is that a significant part of my life experience (relationships being extremely important) is based on life decisions related specifically to my sexuality. The fact that my first sexual relationship was with another guy and that I eventually married a woman and had kids, impacts all later aspects of my life...including daily interpersonal activities. Believe me, even now when I am having sex with my loving wife, I can't help think and wish that it would be with a guy instead.

So I really have a hard time clearly answering your question...because in some areas of my life my sexuality as a lot of depth but not a lot of breadth, and in others has a lot of breadth, but not a lot of depth.