well for one cuddles to you for being an amazing husband, but unfortunately you have created a monster....she has taken you for granted and now you have to stand on your feet and get your respect back...I have seen this before with a friend of mine and this man gave her the moon and stars and she treated him like ****....belittled him, took him for granted , manipulated him so bad , would use the kids against him etc....they are still together but she has manipulated him so bad that he thinks his marriage problems were his fault and has agreed to change whatever it is to fix things....look at your self worth and know you have the right to be respected and appreciated...and that you do not have to settle for that...just my opinion....all the best to you