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Originally Posted by ochoa.c
I personally don't see how YOU are the injuring party in all this. Not a liar and not a manipulator. The two things you did don't amount to anything that could not reasonably be expected of someone else in the same situation I feel, even though yes, it was probably wrong to do these things but I don't believe you have anything to do with the cause of his relationship issues.
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Thank you for this response. I have even wracking my brain and going over and over the situation in my head. It's nice to be encouraged just a little.
He agreed to go to individual counseling as well as couples counseling. I do agree that what I did was wrong no matter how you spin it. I do also know that my fella has some trust issues that have nothing to do with me. He has a sordid history with cheating - meaning he himself cheated on his wife over ten years ago and was in turn cheated on by the person that he left his wife for. His very next relationship was this on again off again thing he had with A.
I've never been married, I don't have a history of cheating and I am franky not interested in going down that road so his trust issues usually rub me the wrong way. I am hopeful that with professional help we can reach a happy medium and an even level of trust for one another otherwise this relationship won't be good for either of us.