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Old Mar 26, 2015, 04:36 PM
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Originally Posted by StressedMess View Post

JS, my ex was the same way, and though I never knew it was a "technique" I used to give him the blank face/mirror as well. It IS hella emotionally draining, but better than a shouting match or a call to the police. . .

Yeah... Although... [emoji57] One of the stbx's 'things' was to start raging at me out of nowhere over some small thing - like not answering the phone on the first ring or not opening the door for him fast enough. So I would start before he could. A decent amount of yelling was still involved but at least the days-long sulk was avoided. Gods I am glad that man, sorry, overgrown manchild is (mostly) out of my life.

Eta: I didn't fully realize what I was doing either til I read that bit... I'm not sure how good it is to be doing it too much though - abusive behavior is still abusive behavior even if you're mirroring someone else's. Which brings me back to why I'm thinking about posting a thread. Where should the line be drawn with this technique?
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Last edited by JustShakey; Mar 26, 2015 at 04:51 PM.